La Cosa Nostra: The 10 Laws of the Sicilian Mafia (and how they apply to you)
La Cosa Nostra’s foundation is built upon a law code of honor.
What’s up guys?
Hope you’re all doing well.
I have previously written about the importance of establishing your own law code.
Today, I just wanted to briefly show you the code that governs one of the most idolized organizations in the world.
The Mafia… often referred to as La Cosa Nostra or “this thing of ours.”
Pop culture is obsessed with the Mafia. Some of the most popular films and television shows of all time focus on the mob.
The money. The power. The respect.
It’s all glorified and ingrained into our culture. Many people only know what is depicted in films and television shows.
Here is a glimpse into reality: La Cosa Nostra is governed by 10 laws or “commandments.”
All members must abide by them.
Membership shows that you are exclusive… a man of honor who will remain loyal to the family.
Failure to abide by these commandments is a sign of dishonor and breakage of that loyalty.
We are obviously not members, but these laws are still worthy of being studied. Do they apply to us? Let’s see.
1. No one can present himself directly to another of our friends. There must be a third person to do it.
This ties in nicely with overall social skills.
You must know how to conduct yourself.
More importantly, you must realize the importance of becoming a man of many friends aka becoming multidimensional.
That’s the easiest way to associate with powerful people.
It’s also the easiest way to date the highest quality girls (in most social environments). *** Not cold approach pick-up
Men and women… The most concrete way to establish a valuable connection is if you have a third party greasing the wheels.
2. Never look at the wives of friends.
This is an easy one. It means be loyal.
Close friends can often be considered brothers in many instances.
Your friends’ girls are off limits.
They could be throwing themselves at you.
They could tempt you with the fact that no one will ever know. It does not matter.
Get those thoughts out of your head.
And if you do decide to betray your friend… you deserve whatever revenge he has planned for you.
*** To be honest, by default, you should pass on taken chicks… unless it’s Vegas or you have no idea who the guy is/he is not around. But if you know the guy or have met him, you should not go for his girl. It just isn’t right. It’s not the honorable thing to do.
3. Never be seen with cops.
No one likes a snitch.
People get turned off by even the remote possibility of someone being a snitch.
This doesn’t apply to just cops.
This applies to any form of authority… especially in the workplace.
Employees are always wary of that one goody-to shoes who they know will report any slander against the boss.
These people are usually uptight and friendless. Don’t be that person.
4. Don’t go to pubs and clubs.
Don’t take this law literally.
Obviously, when you are young, you definitely want to go out and have some fun.
That’s what college is for.
Just don’t dedicate your life to it like so many PUA’s have.
You need a higher purpose in life.
Eventually, you will need everything you got to drive toward it.
You will need all of your focus.
There will not be time to party it up like you did in high school and college.
That’s why it’s important to experience your wild days during your high school and college years (and a few years after).
You don’t want to still be chasing the player lifestyle into your thirties while also trying to follow your path.
5. Always being available for Cosa Nostra is a duty – even if your wife’s about to give birth.
This doesn’t really apply. It sort of relates to number 6.
Family always comes first though… remember that.
6. Appointments must absolutely be respected.
When you say you are going to do something you do it.
When you say you are going to be somewhere at a certain time, you show up at that time.
Again, this relates to your word.
A man’s word is everything.
Breaking your word and breaking appointments (without prior notice) is a sign of weakness.
To be honest those are traits usually associated with women.
7. Wives must be treated with respect.
Don’t get suckered into the whole PUA mindset of “I’m gonna be a big bad alpha male by playing mind games with women.”
It will get you nowhere.
High quality women don’t fall for the games.
They screen out the little boys and search for grown men that know how to conduct themselves.
Little boys don’t get to play with grown man toys.
Become the total package. Get women to fall in love with you.
8. When asked for any information, the answer must be the truth.
“I never lie because I don’t fear anyone. You only lie when you are afraid.”- John Gotti
When someone asks you something, tell them the truth.
People say that “the truth shall set you free.”
What they really mean is that the truth will boost your confidence.
It boosts your confidence because that fear of hiding the truth is off your chest.
On the other hand, if they don’t ask… you don’t have to tell.
9. Money cannot be appropriated if it belongs to others or to other families.
Keep it simple. Worry about your own finances.
10. People who can’t be part of La Cosa Nostra: anyone who has a close relative in the police, anyone with a two-timing relative in the family, anyone who behaves badly and doesn’t hold to moral values.
Tell me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.
You can know everything about someone just by looking at who they associate with.
That’s how the world functions.
No one has the time to figure out an individual’s life story.
They operate in CliffsNotes mode.
Your associates are a measuring stick for the cool guys on whether or not to let you roll with their crew.
Your associates are a measuring stick for high quality girls on whether or not you are date worthy.
The people you associate with can make or break you… so be smart.