How to Steal a Steak off the Devil’s Plate (12 Universal Traits of Men Who Date Out of Their League)

Do you know what it means to steal a steak off the Devil’s plate?

It means to pull a fast one or beat the system.

Check out this video I recently made (It relates to last week’s article).

I recorded it a little while back but it’s gold.

It takes me only 4 minutes to tell you everything you need to know about value and dating hot chicks.

As I mentioned in last week’s article, the golden standard from a value standpoint is:


Those are the most universally desired physical traits that women look for. If you have just that going for you (along with good social skills), the world will be yours.

Naturally, most players (guys who get a lot of action) fit this bill.

There’s no big secret as to why big, handsome alpha males get all the girls.

This is what women universally VALUE.

However, this article is not about them.

This article is about the ANOMALY.

The blip on the radar.

The wrench in the machine.

Looks, money, and status matter because they increase your value in the eyes of women.

The better looking you are, the more money you have, and the more popular you are equates to more value you have upon initial interaction.

However, there are instances when men are able to bypass this and essentially beat the system.

I have seen countless examples of men who have consistently dated out of their league.

I am a product of that.

A broke, short, Filipino man is not supposed to win the heart of a model quality, green-eyed, blonde, Russian girl.

He’s was not supposed to beat out tall, rich white guys. My parents should not still be married today.

Yet, my father overcame all odds and did it. I’m here because of it.

Obviously, my father is the first man I’ve seen “beat the system” but he’s hardly the last.

I’ve seen guys with every type of perceived “flaw” kill it and truly live out their ideal dating life.

Short guys. Bald guys. Overweight guys. Stereotypical Asian guys. Stereotypical nerds. Broke guys.

You name it. I have many friends that date out of their league. I (we) also see countless examples of this in public.

For some reason these guys are able to beat the system and score chicks out of their league.

HINT: The reason RARELY has to do with money.

This article is about the how and the why.

The truth is that while these men may exhibit low value in certain aspects of their brand, they make up for it with certain intangibles that women are drawn in towards.

Above all else, women RESPECT men who exhibit these traits because they are strong.

Strength and masculinity always win the day.

This list is for those of you who want to date out of your league and in the process, steal a steak off the devil’s plate.

1. They possess STRONG, COMPETENT hands.

After your brain, your hands are your most important tools.

You can tell how strong a man is just by his hands.

Strong men have strong hands with strong grips and give firm handshakes.

Weak men have weak hands with weak grips and give girly handshakes.

Lifting weights does not mean you have strong hands.

Strength is both body and mind.

It’s a weathering process.

Strong, competent hands are the result of experience actually using your hands to do useful every day shit.

Every guy I know that gets chicks out of their league possesses strong, competent hands.

This is why blue collar jobs are valuable experience for young men.

Read more about the importance of blue collar experience. 

Strong, competent hands can seemingly do it all.

They know how to use tools. They can fix shit. They have been in fights and know how to defend themselves. They can cook. They can clean.

And above all, they have powerful grip strength.

Ever hear the saying: “Get a grip.”

It’s true. Regardless of whatever “disadvantage” they might have, these men have a grip on life.

They are cool, calm, and collected.

Strong, competent hands are the foundation of this.

2. They unleash the animal when necessary.

Violence gives you power. It’s make you stronger. Not surprisingly, it gives you confidence.

You want to know what confidence is on a primitive level?

Confidence is knowing that you have the ability to destroy any guy you come across.

Actual experience giving beatings (and taking a few) reinforces this.

A big reason why guys lack confidence today is because we live in a pacifistic culture.

Many men go through their entire lives without getting in to a fight.

Today, when someone disrespects or “tries” you, it’s better to “be the bigger person” and “walk away.”

The consequences for any resort to violence are harsh.

The system comes down hard against those who resort to violence.

It starts within the education system and continues with THE LAW.

When I was in high school, anybody involved in a fight faced automatic expulsion… even if the person was just a victim.

That’s right. My junior year of high school a kid got kick out of school for getting jumped by three kids.

That’s how pussified we’ve become.

Men who date up are not pussified because they can’t afford to be. They must be strong.

They have been in fights.

They don’t let people disrespect them. They don’t let people push them around.

They stand up for themselves.

They are FEARLESS in the face of conflict.

They speak up and use their voice.

They resort to violence when they must defend themselves.

When push comes to shove, they crack skulls open and deal with the consequences later.

3. They set the tone from the get go.

Ever hear this story?

A dude starts dating a chick.

He is so happy that he got a girlfriend that he doesn’t know what to do with himself.

His girlfriend has guy friends that she occasionally hangs out with.

Maybe she has lunch with them.

Maybe she occasionally meets up with them for drinks.

Maybe she joins them for their guy’s night out.

Maybe she’s still talks with her ex and they still hang out.

Eventually, she has “one little slip up” and ends up cheating.

The boyfriend finds out and usually does 1 of 2 things:

  • He is saddened by it but eventually accepts it. “Everyone deserves a second chance.”
  • He tries to move on but keeps bringing it up. He doesn’t pull the trigger and break up with her because he doesn’t have any other options. Eventually, the girl breaks up with him because he’s not “giving her space.”

Ever hear that one? Of course you have.

This never happens to men who consistently date up.

They’re too sharp. They know the game.

And they know they have a target on their back because they are susceptible to other dudes pulling the robbery.

They are prepared because they set standards at the beginning of the relationship.

Every dude has their own standards but every badass motherfucker abides by these universal standards that they set for their chick:

  • “There’s no communication with other guys.”
  • “There’s no hanging out and grabbing drinks/lunch with other guys.”
  • “There are no guy friends. I’m the only guy in your life.”

Strong men have high standards. There’s no discussion. There’s no excuses.

Your chick listens to you and respects you or she doesn’t. In that case, she’s out the door.

Because these men are inherently strong, they will end the relationship if there is a breach of trust.

4. They have strong eye contact.

Strong eye contact illustrates strength and confidence.

When it comes to beautiful women, strong eye contact illustrates FEARLESSNESS.

Many men are intimidated by beautiful women because they don’t believe they are good enough.

Men who consistently date up are not intimidated by a woman’s beauty.

Really, they’re not intimidated by anyone. (They will stare down dudes who try them. Look at #2.)

They know they are good enough based upon the simple fact that they are strong, competent men.

They have the ability to hold eye contact with a hot chick and not look away.

5. They are sweet talkers and have the gift of gab.

There is no such thing as a regular guy (average value) with poor social skills who bangs hot chicks.

It does not happen.

Anyone who tells you otherwise is either lying or does not know any better.

What you say absolutely matters.

Communication is key.

Social skills matter.

They matter even more for guys who want to date up.

Tall, strong, handsome men can stare a chick down and make her pussy wet.

Guys who are trying to date up usually do not have the physical presence to do this.

However, they make up for it with their ability to sweet talk a chick.

They have a way with words.

Read more on how to grease the wheels.

Read more on verbal screening.

They know exactly what to say and when to say it.

They are quick on their feet and react in the moment.

In reality, this is true for all guys who bang a lot of hot chicks.

6. They have a lot of friends (acquaintances).

Men who date up rarely (if ever) meet their chicks through cold approach.

They meet them through other friends or “convenient small talk” (more on that later).

In other words, they run social circle game.

They know that the odds are not in their favor if they were to run around all day and night cold approaching chicks.

Instead, they play the game on their terms because they understand this fundamental truth:


7. They are LEADERS.

“I’ll handle it.”

“I’ll take care of it.”

“Don’t worry, I got this.”

This is the type of language strong men use with women.

Women feel secure when they hear a dude say these phrases because this reassures them that the man is in control.

This is the way it’s supposed to be.

The man should always be in control.

They make the decisions.

They are the leaders.

I always used to think it looked a little funny watching my 5’3” father take my 5’9” mother’s hand and lead her around.

Now, I know the real jokes are the low testosterone beta males who are being led around by their nagging wives.

8. They set high standards for themselves.

Men who date up have high self-esteems.

They don’t settle for scraps.

They believe in themselves and they know what they are worth.

So they go out and get it.

They don’t step up to the plate, looking to settle for singles.

Their mentality falls in line with “swing for the fence and knock it out of the park.”

9. They understand that beauty does not translate to perfection.

Banging a hot chick is every guy’s goal growing up.

We all fantasize about crushing young, fresh puss when we grow up.

We think these girls are going to be perfect in every way.

Society lies to us.

This is not the case.

Beauty does not translate to perfection.

Hot girls can have flaws.

Guys who date girls out of their league know this and as a result, they never put the pussy on the pedestal.

They don’t worship women and treat them like goddesses.

They treat them however they deserve to be treated.

10. They have a knack for being in the right place at the right time.

I don’t have any explanation for this other than they have strong internal compasses.

They know where to go and when to go there.

They are natural strategists and cross paths with women at the right time.

Read more on how to meet women at the right place at the right time.

For this, they are rewarded.

The law of attraction applies.

11. They love people and they love striking up conversations with strangers.

They are extroverts.

They are not loud, flashy, boisterous people.

By extroverts, I mean that they are quick to make small talk with strangers.

They don’t initiate small talk with a hidden agenda.

They start talking to strangers just for the simple fact that they love interacting with new people.

They are socially acute in that when they sense an opportunity, they will take it.

With regards to women, they will ask her out if they sense that she is single and available.

They understand that opportunities are gifts and they capitalize.

12. They are optimistic. They only focus on the positive.

Do they know they have weaknesses in their personal brand?

Do they know they that this takes away from their value?

Of course they know.

But they just don’t give a shit.

They don’t beat themselves up.

They remain grateful for what they have and instead choose to focus on WHAT THEY DO BRING TO THE TABLE.

My father had so little growing up and came from the gutter.

It was a miracle that he made it to 20.

It was another miracle that he made it to the United States and managed to survive.

When he met my mom, he didn’t let negative thoughts creep in.

He didn’t focus on being broke, short, or Asian.


He knew how to survive. To him, there was no competition because no one had his life experience.

He also knew that he could destroy any dude that wanted to test him.

Life didn’t just harden him… it turned him in to a piece of iron.

Dad Stealing a Steak Off The Devil's Plate- Mom and Dad (1989)

Dad Stealing a Steak Off The Devil’s Plate- Mom and Dad (1989)

Final Thoughts

This list is about filling the holes in your brand with certain intangibles.

No one is perfect and you don’t have to be perfect to score hot chicks that are out of your league.

However, you must make up for your weaknesses in other areas.

You can’t just be a complete nothing because then you will get nothing.

If you want to believe that, “it’s what on the inside that counts”, then your inside must be strong.

It must shine bright and be extra special.

That’s how you beat the odds.

That’s how you steal a steak off the Devil’s plate.

If you want to get stronger (both physically and mentally), only the best will get you there.

Contact me now for private consultations.


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  1. Enea
    March 1, 2016 at 3:39 pm — Reply

    Dude you’re breaking every record…Every time we think that your article was the best , you go and publish something even more amazing
    P.s. Feels really cool being part of your WhatsApp group

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:35 am — Reply

      Thanks bro. Glad you liked it!

  2. Ricardo
    March 1, 2016 at 3:45 pm — Reply

    You really brought it Sonny.

    Every point was on the money. Especially number 3.


    Keep bringing the gold!

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:37 am — Reply

      Yes #3 is very important. Many relationships are doomed from the start because guys neglect to do that.

      Their head is in the clouds from getting a girl in the first place.

  3. Tommy
    March 1, 2016 at 3:49 pm — Reply

    “They unleash the animal when necessary”

    “Crack skulls open ask questions later”

    “Swing for the fences and knock it out the park”

    This post has tons of little nuggets.

    Thanks a lot Sonny!

    This is the greatest thing I had ever read. Awesome title too 🙂

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:37 am — Reply

      Thanks bro! Yea this is another one you gotta save up.

  4. March 1, 2016 at 5:40 pm — Reply

    Very well written! I have been trying to impart some of these principles to a young man I mentor who is determined to believe that my success is luck, and not skill.

    I am going to have him read this and go over it with him point-by-point!

    He had the misfortune of being born especially handsome but came to me for advice when he realized that Tim Notke was correct when he said “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard”. He realized that he was losing to men like you and I!

    I hope you enjoy my writing as much as I do yours. ~Watt

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:38 am — Reply


  5. Fahanless
    March 2, 2016 at 12:48 am — Reply

    Funny you mention number 10 and then link to your race article (which I have disagreements with but that is for another time) in regards to this post. What I find is that location matters like twice as much if you aren’t a white guy here in the USA. I’ve lived in some places where I’ve seen Asians, black guys, and brown guys date white girls above their league despite not being that amazing themselves. I am talking about a brown guy or Asian guy who is a 6 dating a tall hot blonde with a cute face. Then I have lived in places where objectively handsome (no homo) dudes of minority groups are dating well below their league if they go for white girls due to factors like racism and lack of availability of good looking women in general.

    I’ve known guys of minority groups that looked decent but lucked into some amazing circumstances growing up (ideal location without much racism, cool group of white friends, and somewhat laid back parents) which led to their youth being full of dating pretty looking white girls. Then I’ve known guys of minority groups who were handsome (no homo) but due to circumstances out of their control like the ones you mentioned in your sexless youth post, ended up either as virgins, sexless, or going for girls below their league.

    I hate to be a dick and nothing personal against your dad but I think that in this day and age with the rise of obesity, fat acceptance, and other nonsense he would have a much tougher time in the game.

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:41 am — Reply

      You have a point. It would be harder for him now. But this is theoretically. He is where he is.

      Location does matter, I’ve never said otherwise.

      So you gotta find the best location for you.

  6. Dilip
    March 2, 2016 at 1:39 am — Reply

    Yea but doesn’t cold approach bring something to the table. It shows you have value because you had the balls to take action. Is this not true?

    • March 2, 2016 at 2:42 am — Reply

      Not really. Value matters at he table. “Courage” doesn’t really mean anything.

      Cold approach only works if you have value and the chicks is interested.

  7. Whiskey Tango
    March 2, 2016 at 2:42 pm — Reply

    I usually don’t comment on blogs but you did a great job on this article Sonny. Good stuff! Keep up the great work.

    • March 3, 2016 at 2:49 am — Reply

      Thanks bro! And thanks for stopping by 🙂

  8. BradZ
    March 2, 2016 at 5:21 pm — Reply

    These points make a lot of sense to me. I thought the one on grip and strong hands was interesting. What made you notice this? How do you improve your grip?

    • March 3, 2016 at 2:50 am — Reply

      Just something I realized from my father and other male role models I got to know over the years.

      They all have big bear hands and powerful grip strength.

      I’ll start posting some free routines I’ve used over the years.

  9. Andreas
    March 2, 2016 at 6:14 pm — Reply

    Great article. I’ll be revisiting this one for sure.

    • March 3, 2016 at 2:50 am — Reply

      Sounds good!

  10. Julio
    March 3, 2016 at 5:45 am — Reply

    This is pure gold, man. I have read this and your previous article a couple times over and will continue to do so until these traits are ingrained in me. I am so glad I found your site and have you as a guide to becoming the best version of myself. I can’t thank you enough. Keep bringing it! You can’t find information like this anywhere else on the web.

    • March 3, 2016 at 5:48 am — Reply

      Thanks brother! You’re on the right path. Just keep grinding and keep looking to the future.

      It’s bright!

  11. DJ
    March 3, 2016 at 6:05 pm — Reply

    This was great I especially like the part about setting standards
    I have low standards I think and this make me needy. Is this hurting my game?

    • March 3, 2016 at 9:04 pm — Reply

      Absolutely. When you set standards and stick to them, you start attracting hotter chicks. Funny how things work out that way 🙂

  12. Francis
    March 3, 2016 at 7:42 pm — Reply

    Yea but what do you do if you want to beat someone’s ass. Like you said the law will fuck you over if you fight someone.

    • March 3, 2016 at 9:04 pm — Reply

      If they put their hands on you, they started it… it’s your right to FINISH IT.

    • March 3, 2016 at 9:05 pm — Reply

      **** You are defending yourself.

  13. Cam..
    March 3, 2016 at 8:39 pm — Reply

    Great 🔥 article ! Saved and stashed 🔐

    • March 3, 2016 at 9:05 pm — Reply

      Thanks bro!

  14. Dan
    March 4, 2016 at 3:47 am — Reply

    Strong points in this one, Sonny, definitely heavier than the last one. Focuses on Strength and Masculinity, that’s exactly what you said in your ten laws article.

    Ones that stuck out to me personally:

    #2 was kind of a harsh reality for me. I was in denial of how important it is to physically fight for yourself.
    #4 is really apparent to me now that I’ve been doing it.
    #5 is a skill I’m working on and watching others who are good at conversing.
    #7 is a solid trait I want to have, to trust in myself to get the job done.

    • March 4, 2016 at 5:39 am — Reply

      Good to see you liked some of the points.

      Actually, I think a lot of these were reinforced through certain movies and tv shows over the years.

      Maybe it would help if I came up with a big list.

  15. MB
    March 5, 2016 at 10:19 am — Reply

    Sonny I gotta say this and your previous article “what women value” are on another level. Just like the other guys here I’m gonna save these and keep reading them for a while to come.

    I stacked myself up against the lists and am working on every single area I’m lacking in, while being grateful for the areas I’m strong in. Am I right in assuming that a tall, strong, and good looking dude who also applies these 12 will have an even better advantage in life?

    By the way, since you have a lot of articles now, might I suggest you create a “START HERE” tab for your new reader? I can imagine it’d be pretty overwhelming coming to your site for the first time.

    Keep up the great work and like Enea said, it’s cool being a part of the whatsapp group and chatting with you guys on a daily basis.

    • March 7, 2016 at 5:15 pm — Reply

      Thank bro! Yes, this game is about ADVANTAGES.

      ADVANTAGE is such an important concept to keep in mind.

      Women say they want a man with confidence.

      Well what is confidence? Confidence is when you know deep down that you have a lot of advantages.

      When you have advantages, there is no second guessing. You know you are awesome. And you know that you are a “catch”.

      I’ll keep that in mind for the tab.

      Yea great having you guys in the whatsapp group. It’s always fun there especially when everyone is joking around 🙂

  16. joelsuf
    March 5, 2016 at 3:24 pm — Reply

    Brilliant advice, as usual! One thing I’d like to add about the fighting is not only do we live in a pacifist society, we also live in what I call a butthurt society. It is VERY easy to get into altercations with boys nowadays just by speaking to them the wrong way or by them taking a joke or something the wrong way. I once had a god dam piece pulled on me cuz I thought it was strange that they were wearing a wife beater in 30 degree weather. And that was AFTER I said that I meant nothing by it. So not only do you have to have good people and leadership skills with chicks but also with dudes too (even more so IMO just cuz they get butthurt WAY more than chicks nowadays). I’ve been in fights as a kid but never felt the need to do so as a grown man. But that is cuz no one physically provokes me. And I’m a 5’8” jew with a dadbod lol. The point is to get to that point, where you aren’t physically provoked, where people know that if they physically provoke you then they will wind up eating through a straw. This way you can avoid fighting altogether. I’m just concerned some of your audience might get an assault charge cuz they thought that getting into fights = female attention. I’m likely wrong about that observation, but you never know.

    • March 7, 2016 at 5:20 pm — Reply

      Good points. I absolutely do not recommend guys get in to fights for the fun of it.

      However, if someone starts shit with you and pushes you etc… You have to stand up for yourself.

      Don’t let anyone push you around in anyway.

      Going against the grain is how you get female attention… A way to do this is to eliminate a passive mindset.

      I wrote about this in the How to Defend Yourself article.

      • joelsuf
        March 7, 2016 at 7:04 pm — Reply

        Yeah that makes sense. There’s only two instances where I’ll get physical. 1) if I get physically provoked (which has never happened to me past junior high) 2) If I see someone I know get physically provoked. Vocal provocation doesn’t lead me to get in anyone’s face, as I see that as a sign of fear. So I usually just laugh at it. Anyways my point was that walking around flexing on other boys for the sake of it (which is sadly popular nowadays) or deciding to pound someone’s face just because they are daring you to do it is not smart IMO lol. Oh yeah, just heard your interview with Squattincassanova, had no idea you knew him!

        • March 8, 2016 at 9:07 pm — Reply

          Yea never go around looking for a fight.

  17. Ryan
    March 8, 2016 at 8:33 pm — Reply

    Yeah all of these things build up to the truly intangible sense of tranquility that some call inner game, and that’s necessary for killer instinct.

    Even if girls didn’t see the fight, I’d have done it for the headspace it put me in. It has people around me kind of dick riding and I don’t really need to talk. Though I recently turned 24 and street fights are a little immature at this point, it’s definitely given me a huge foundation of confidence.

    Watched Appaloosa last night, the main characters are gun slingers and the movie alludes to their sense of calm about it without fear. I’ve never been in a gun fight, but that’s how I feel about the any physical confrontation (barring if I knew they were a professional fighter tbh). That feels pretty good

    • March 8, 2016 at 9:09 pm — Reply

      “Bold Looking Loser”… fanboy much?

  18. Ryan
    March 16, 2016 at 1:39 pm — Reply

    Should I rename it Bold By Loser

    • March 16, 2016 at 6:42 pm — Reply

      IDK do what you want.

  19. […] levels) and bring girls home…and then, you know. If you need help with your game, check out Sonny’s article on what attracts women and how to punch above your […]

  20. Daniel Voigt
    March 30, 2016 at 10:01 am — Reply

    Thx for these awesome article. Especially #2, #3 and #9 were all-new to me and I have to work on that (brain washed from to much reading pickup stuff). For the sake of giving the best “basic knowledge” this article should be given to every new born boy lol.

    I wish you all the very best!

  21. dave
    September 4, 2016 at 12:05 am — Reply

    curious have you seen average and ugly guys kill it from cold approach. obviously they can get girl out of thier league aš they get them through social circle, aš you see looks mismatched couples every day. is cold approach pure looks based. i see guys with hot chicks with some ugly fucks.

    • September 6, 2016 at 6:29 pm — Reply

      In real life, Cold approach is purely looks based. In fake infield vids looks are irrelevant

  22. Karthik Srinivas
    December 8, 2016 at 6:21 am — Reply

    Good points. Love it and especially third point is an eye opening. how do you set boundaries without making both parties uncomfortable, when hot girls have lot of options.

    “There’s no communication with other guys.”
    “There’s no hanging out and grabbing drinks/lunch with other guys.”
    “There are no guy friends. I’m the only guy in your life.”

    • December 8, 2016 at 3:24 pm — Reply

      You’re either the man or you aren’t. Dating is business. You always want to be in the driver seat.

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