I have emphasized the importance of social skills since the beginning of Strength By Sonny.
That is the bare minimum to developing friendships and relationships.
If you don’t want to acknowledge this or think you can skip this (as many aspiring PUA’s try to do), you are holding yourself back. You will spend years in stagnation. I promise you.
It should make sense. Social skills are the fundamental answer to every “social” problem you may have.
How can I get more friends? Improve your social skills.
How can I get a better with girls? Improve your social skills.
How can I become a more attractive person overall? Improve your social skills.
If you want to improve your social skills, this post and podcast are for you.
Tony and I agree on this. It’s really a product of the times where technology has sort of taken over our lives. We are consumed by it.
Everywhere you look people are glued to their smartphones and tablets.
Do you think this relates to overall poor social skills and social awkwardness? I do.
Seriously, look at how socially awkward so many people are today.
It used to be you would have a few oddballs who were video game nerds/glued to the Game Boy.
But now it’s more common. It seems like every other person is a social retard.
If this is you, you have to fix it!
The Most Efficient Way to Improve Your Social Skills
The ideal way to develop good social skills is to be conditioned starting at an early age. Have cool friends all throughout school and start dating when you’re ready.
When that happens, there’s nothing you really need to work on. You just “get it” because it’s been there the whole time.
Not everyone has this luxury. I understand that.
The next best way to improve your social skills is to place yourself in an environment where good social skills are not only encouraged but often required.
Therefore, if you are a young adult and you want to improve your social skills, it is strongly recommended that you get a job that requires good social skills.
Think about it. A significant portion of your day is spent interacting with others. You learn how to observe people. You learn how to talk to them. Ultimately, you learn how to judge a book by its cover and act accordingly.
Maybe you want to get a sale? You learn who you are talking to and grease the wheels.
Maybe you want to solidify a contact? You offer value.
This translates to activities outside of work. Maybe you want to get a chick out on a date (as many of you do). You position yourself as a “yes” by offering value and letting the chick close herself.
On top of improving your social skills, you also get to make money. You can make a decent chunk of change if you go the industry route (especially in the big party cities).
So let’s see. Improve your social skills by getting a job that requires a lot of interacting with people. You get to make money. As a bonus, you also get to make friends. Seems like a good idea.
Improve Your Social Skills By Listening to Sonny and Tony
In this episode of The Dorms to Daybeds Podcast, Tony and I discuss the importance of good social skills.
We agree that the best way to improve your social skills as fast as possible is to get a job that requires you to talk with people all day (or night if you go the service industry route).
Collectively, Tony and I have worked a ton of jobs that required us to constantly interact with people. Overall, it made us better communicators which has translated to awesome social circles and successful dating lives.
We talk about a lot of different job experiences and agree on a select few jobs to improve social skills. The main 3 we spend time talk about are:
– service industry: bartender/waiter
– camp counselor
– retail sales
Please understand that we do not encourage you to pursue these jobs as full-time career options.
I like to think of these jobs as a sort of a “kill two birds with one stone” strategy.
Maybe you’re a shy kid in college and want to break out of your shell? A weekend bar-tending gig might be the perfect way to get friends (and chicks) and also make some extra scratch on the side.
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