Sacrifice: The Price of a Good Trick
Sacrifice… that is the price of a good trick.
A lot of “gurus” (most of them never reveal their face) write their opinions on what it takes to become successful. The funny thing is they never talk about sacrifice.
To be honest, most people in the self-improvement industry are full of crap. Most “manosphere” bloggers are anonymous guys that were the loner geek type in high school and college.
They didn’t have much of a social life growing up (they probably still don’t). Most of them have a lot of bottled up anger when it comes to women/making friends and they spit a lot of venom from behind a keyboard because of it.
Most of them ignore the obvious truth because they don’t know it.
They don’t have actual experience putting in the physical and mental work to get what they want. They didn’t play sports growing up. They weren’t conditioned to be competitors who were obsessed with winning.
They weren’t forced to run gassers on old school astro-turf in 110 degree weather in the middle of July. They have no idea what “suicides” are.
They didn’t experience competing in sports all over the United States against the best competition in the country.
They know nothing about pushing their body beyond their limits through grueling strength and conditioning training in effort to become an athletic powerhouse.
They talk about the importance of “generating state from within” or being “free from outcome.” Those things might help but they don’t strengthen you to the point of getting what you want.
Pretending that you are happy when you are truly miserable on the inside will not do a thing for you. Pretending to be a big bad alpha male when in reality you are not a person who is worthy of that universal respect will only give you a “try hard” vibe.
The truth is… Anything that is not given to you upfront comes with a cost. Everything costs something.
What about your life’s purpose or you “path” in life?
Yes, that costs something too. Sacrifice. Dedication. Whatever you want to call it… You will have to make sacrifices (if you want it bad enough).
It means that you are going to have to make a decision that you are 100% about that life.
Decisions terrify most people. People fear decisions because they fear chosen commitment. Most people make commitment out of convenience. They don’t usually freely choose it. Most relationships today are an example of this. Another example is occupation.
Most people don’t really go after what they want in life. If that were the case, everyone would be brand building and eventually starting their own business. But that’s not the case. Most people live for convenience aka take what is given to them.
They don’t make decisions. They ask everyone else for their opinion and usually just pick what is most convenient or the majority opinion.
I was guilty of this up until high school. Finally, college decision time came and I naturally asked my father what I should do. He told me: “Not this time. This time is different. You pick what school you want to go to. Only you. And you live with your decision. No transferring or wanting to come back home. Whatever school you pick, that’s what school’s stage you’re going to be walking across and earning your degree from in four years. So make sure you pick the right one.”
Since then I’ve made my own decisions and then asked for input afterwards.
You want to master your trick?
It starts with making the decision to commit. It starts with you making the decision that you are going to live your trick.
You decide that you are going to eat sleep and breathe your trick until you decide to move on to another one. You know you have found your trick when everything else naturally takes a backseat to it.
Friends. Family. Sleep. Girlfriend. You start to care a little less about those things because you become obsessed with your trick.
Reminder: Don’t completely ignore everything else. You need some balance.
It is big advantage to have that fearlessness toward losing it all in pursuit of mastering your trick. That’s more fire for your competitive spirit and what you tell it.
The Perfect Movie Scene
There is a movie about 2 magicians (portrayed by Hugh Jackman and Christian Bale) in the 19th century who develop a great rivalry over who can outperform the other with the best tricks.
The movie is called The Prestige. You could probably find it for free online somewhere.
There is a scene where an old Chinese magician puts a silk cloth in front of his body and magically pulls a gigantic fish bowl seemingly out of thin air.
One of the magicians (Hugh Jackman) and his advisor watch as members of the audience.
The magician does not know how the old man does it. The advisor remarks that the old Chinese magician is actually holding the fish bowl in between his legs the entire time before the trick is performed.
The magician (Jackman) says it’s impossible because the Chinese magician is an old man who is slow and walks hunched over.
The advisor says that it’s all an act. The Chinese magician is actually quite strong and able bodied. He simply fakes his hunch and wide legged walk.
The lesson is that he sacrificed. His entire life revolved around making his fishbowl trick seem more believable. That’s the price he paid…
The question is what price are you going to pay once you find the trick you want to master?…