The Competitive Spirit


What separates the guys who get whatever they want in life from the guys who settle for scraps?

What’s the difference between the guys who operate with a “Till I Collapse” mindset in every aspect of life versus the maybe next timers?

How can you become someone who conquers goals and tells limits to get lost?


The answer is the competitive spirit.

The competitive spirit is the atom of self-improvement. It is the basic unit of life for an individual who wants it all and is willing to do the work to get it. A strong competitive spirit is what will get you what you want in life… the body you want, the women you want, and the money you want.

The spirit of a competitor is what gives you drive. It’s what eliminates distractions and makes you focus on the task at hand. It gives you purpose.

When you are struggling to get out that tenth rep, it gets you there and to eleven as well. It makes you get out of bed at four in the morning to do your cardio. It gives you the discipline to stick to a diet. It gives you the courage to talk to a chick even when you are nervous. And it drives you to continue working on your craft deep into the night.


The Competitive Spirit is the ULTIMATE EDGE.

People always want to talk about having an edge. They say that if you truly want to compete, you have to have an edge.

The competitive spirit itself is often overlooked in favor of the quick fix or performance enhancers.

I have trained with many people over the years, most of them were on steroids. And yet only one of them has been able to outwork me. Why is this? Aren’t steroids supposed to make you bigger, stronger, and give you the ability to outwork naturals?

The answer can be found within the competitive spirit. Sure, steroids are absolutely amazing and do all of those things. But they mean nothing without a competitive spirit made of iron.

Those guys had followed traditional bodybuilding forum advice. They had maybe 1-2 years of natural lifting experience doing simple straight sets. They had never punished their body with high intensity high volume training.

They didn’t know what it meant to die in the gym and be reborn a bigger, stronger version of themselves. They had no competitive spirit.

Building yourself up to become an individual with a strong competitive spirit has 2 main benefits.


Unbreakable Confidence and Toughness are guaranteed.

These 2 traits are sorely lacking amongst your average Joe’s walking around. Your average Joe has okay confidence at best. Nothing special. And he ain’t mentally tough.

He does not have what it takes to get it done. He does not have what it takes to destroy his limits in the gym. He does not have what it takes to go talk to the cute chick he sees at Barnes & Nobles. He does not have what it takes to make the necessary sacrifices to create something.

He takes what is given to him with a smile on his face.

But deep down he is not smiling. He is melting away day by day because he does not have the competitive spirit burning inside him. He is made of silly putty.

On the other hand, an individual who embraces the mentality of a competitor is supremely confident. He is confident because he has EXPERIENCE setting his sights on what he wants and working relentlessly to get it.

He knows that he is in a class all by himself because he is Don amongst a sea of average Joe’s. He will not say it out loud… but he knows that he truly is better than the competition. He is a force to be reckon with… a completely different animal.

He is a tough guy because he refuses to lose. He will do whatever it takes (and beyond) to win. He is obsessed with excellence and holding himself to a higher standard.

Some guys may call him nuts. He could care less because most of those guys are the pussies who don’t have what it takes. Others may doubt him. He pays no heed because he’s been there before. He’s gone through the process of wanting to accomplish something. He knows what it takes and he has the spirit.

He’s a nasty guy with a chip on his shoulder. Why? Because it’s never enough. There’s never an end. There’s always a new goal or desire… The hustle never ends.

That’s what the spirit does to him. It makes him a conqueror of goals and a destroyer of limits.


There is no middle ground.

You are can be an average Joe. Or you can be a competitor. The choice is yours. I highly encourage you to become a competitor.

This is my business. This is my bread and butter. I can teach you everything about getting chicks. I can teaching how to become good with people and make cool friends. I can teach you how to get jacked. I can teach you a lot of stuff.

They will all require work. They will all require you to eventually become something that you are not. None of it is possible without the mindset of a true competitor.

This is my calling. I am here to teach guys how to approach life as one big competition. Most of the time, the opponent will be yourself.

The question is are you ready to compete? Are you willing to challenge yourself day in and day out to get results? That’s what it’s gonna take fellas.

Before I sign off here is a video demonstrating the competitive spirit at work. It’s a video of me deadlifting 315 at the end of a high volume back workout. I’m exhausted. Dieting has depleted my strength. My goal was 15 but I was able to get 5 more. That what it’s all about.






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  1. ChrisTHEGREEK
    June 10, 2014 at 9:21 pm — Reply

    That’s a mean look at 5:05. Good stuff bro, great article. I need a workout partner like you.

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:52 pm — Reply

      Thanks dude. Yea deep down I’m a nasty mothafucka when it comes to competing.

  2. relentless competitor
    June 10, 2014 at 9:50 pm — Reply

    bro you def coulda done more than 20 reps. no offense but how you gonna talk about bein competitive when you don’t even hit failure. yeah your goal was 15 but you coulda hit like 22 or 23 reps total if you didn’t stop. idk maybe i’m different but every time i do back/legs, i would need to lay down for a minute after my workout cuz i wouldn’t even be able to walk out the gym.

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:51 pm — Reply

      Those were done at the end of my back workout.

    • Cam..
      June 11, 2014 at 6:54 pm — Reply

      Cool story Dude.. I think you missed the gist of the video!

      Maybe you are different.. Perhaps you got 2 chips on each shoulder..

      No offense but 315 x 15 ON A THE END of a back workout shows a lot of character. The barbell damn near slipped out at the 17 rep. I bet at least 90% of all of us woulda called it quits right then and there. The way I see it, he pretty much went past what most would call failure.

      If you can do the same under those conditions then I’ve got respect for you too.


  3. rad
    June 10, 2014 at 10:54 pm — Reply

    I have been searching for something like this for years. Major paradigm shift. That video was fuckin inspiring as well. This is by far your most important post yet and should be emphasized before getting into your specific write ups. Thanks again man.

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:50 pm — Reply

      Thanks dude. Yea this is the topic that will help people out the most.

  4. cAM
    June 11, 2014 at 2:09 am — Reply

    You’re an inspiration bro! Sometimes i feel like all these answers to all the questions we have can be answered if we just stop being lazy and just go hard or go home..

    Saw your vid last night. That shit was inspiring! 315 x 20 while depleted from dieting is no fukin joke.

    I decided to apply it right away. Did my chest workout today.. supersetted everything. i didn’t think i had what it takes to make it through (esp towards the end of the workout).. but i made it.. even threw in some ab workouts when i was done.

    keep em coming Sonny!

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:49 pm — Reply

      Yea. Pretty much the answer to anything is to get stronger and stop being a pussy.

      Glad to hear those supersets are working for ya bro.

  5. June 11, 2014 at 7:51 am — Reply

    It was somewhat vague and unclear the concept of “Competitive Spirit”. The video was of great help, because I saw it with my own eyes. I know what you mean now.

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:48 pm — Reply

      Yea I’m gonna talk a lot about it and everything you can do to get it (strengthen it).

  6. Xavi
    June 11, 2014 at 2:57 pm — Reply

    I totally get what you mean!
    Although I think a high sex drive helps a lot too….

    • June 11, 2014 at 5:47 pm — Reply

      Doing all the things to become a competitor will increase your sex drive (and sense of entitlement)

  7. Florian
    June 12, 2014 at 2:08 pm — Reply

    Great article.
    I think the hardest part is STAYING a competitor. In the beginning, success comes fast while you are pushing yourself. Then, you often reach a plateau. Or you are even performing a bit worse than in the beginning. What gets you through such a plateau? How do you keep your ultimate goals in sight when you don’t have immediate success to validate yourself? Keeping a dairy to remind yourself that you are still on the road towards your goals?

    • June 12, 2014 at 4:30 pm — Reply

      Great point. All of these will be answered in future articles.

      • Florian
        June 13, 2014 at 1:49 am — Reply


  8. June 12, 2014 at 6:44 pm — Reply

    Wow Sonny, the speed you got on the first many reps is insane considering the load!

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