My Final Thoughts on Dating and Relationships
I’ve talked about “game” on and off for almost 3 years.
It’s old news. There’s nothing left to say.
Strength By Sonny has covered everything there is to know on dating and relationships (within my level of experience).
It’s time to move on and evolve as we finish 2016. That being said I have a few more things to say about this game .
These are the 6 best resources for a shotgun approach.
If you are building your dating life from the ground up, drill these 6 articles in to their head.
Do not go in to this blindly. You must recognize and understand the circumstances leading up to right now. Why do you fail with women? Why haven’t you achieved the dating life you want? The answer lies with your conditioning up to right now. Recognize the flawed culture but don’t dwell on the past. Learn from it and evolve.
These 2 articles look at game through the lens of ten laws. These were the original posts. Follow these laws and you will win.
This post covers VALUE. What do women value? Without value, you stand little chance in today’s dating scene. Build yourself up and bring something to the table.
You have to know what you want and adjust your game accordingly. Do you want to bang a lot of chicks? Do you want one girlfriend? What do you really want? This also applies toward your lifestyle as you build your business.
This was a fun, reflective piece I wrote based off of my observations of friends and family members who had seemingly “cracked the code.” He’s with her? How did he get with her? This post details the universal traits I have personally seen in men who “date up.”
*** HINT: While they may have lacked in the traditional measures of value (looks, money, status), they made up for it in other areas.
Women Are Business: Good Deals vs. Bad Deals
This is not love. This is business. Business comes before love.
Long-term relationships should not be built upon love. They should be built upon COMPATIBILITY.
Dating is business. When it comes to women, you have good deals and bad deals. There’s no in between.
Your standards determine the deal.
Do you know what a good deal is? A good deal is when the chick meets your standards. There’s no compromising. She either meets your standards or she does not.
A bad deal is anything other than a chick meeting your standards.
Most men who study pickup fail to realize this. Most don’t have standards.
They fail to treat dating like a business. They often show their cards first and get emotional (even before the girl).
Many settle out of fear. If they have standards, they compromise them.
Know what you want and go for it. Have high standards and stick to em’. That is how you make good deals and truly enjoy your dating life.
“Chance Occurrences”, Opportunity, and Destiny
Let’s forget about online dating. Learn more about it here.
When it comes to getting chicks in person, most people think of 2 ways to get chicks: cold approach and social circle.
However, the real magic happens with a third way. I call these chances occurrences or opportunity. Some people call this Destiny.
Chance occurrences are when you randomly meet a chick. The Universe just puts her in your life somehow.
You often meet chicks this way when women are the last thing on your mind.
You have to be ready for it. The Universe owes you nothing. But when it randomly gives you opportunities you must take them.
One of our readers asked me: “How do you find a true gem in these times?”
The first thing you have to do is define what a true gem is to you.
If you have a good heart and truly believe that you are a true gem yourself, you will meet her. It will come at a time when you least expect it.
That opportunity will come. But you have to recognize it and take it.
My Thoughts on Sexual History
Another reader asked me how to determine a girl’s sexual history because women often try to hide it.
1. Use your instinct. You’re gut reaction is usually on the money.
2. Girls are horrible at hiding their sexual history. You can tell just by looking at her tats and piercings. You can tell just by looking at her social media accounts. You can tell just by being a part of the scene. If you and 4 of your gym buddies have all hit sweet, innocent Danielle over the past year… she’s not so sweet and innocent.
*** It’s also not a good sign if she’s on the pill and single.
My General Thoughts After Teaching This For 3 Years
I’ve worked with hundreds of guys over the past few years. Deep down, most guys do not want to bang a lot of chicks.
They don’t want a rotation or a “harem.” Most guys simply don’t have the testosterone to bang a lot of chicks and enjoy it. They barely have enough to handle one chick at a time. So why bother?
Most guys would rather live the simple life. They may want to live the crazy, party lifestyle for a little bit but the ultimate goal is to have one long-term girlfriend or wife.
Why are most guys who get deep into PUA (teachers and students) doomed to a miserable existence?
1. They base their entire identity around women.
2. The chase is nothing more than an addiction. All addictions chip away at your soul. Addiction will destroy a man if he lets it.
3. PUA is not the way of the world. The way normal guys get chicks is from social circle, chance occurrences, and online dating. In rare instances, they might do some approaching. PUA is a supplement, nothing more. Good friends and connections are the real food for a happy social existence.
4. The very fact that they dedicate so much time, effort, and thought to women ensures that they will never be in the driver’s seat. Women are always in the driver’s seat in their dating lives because these kids lack masculine mindsets.
5. PUA does not teach men how to be masculine or build real value.
Retention of “the good ones” is all that matters
This game means nothing if you can’t keep the ones that matter.
These are some valuable resources based off of what’s worked for me over the years.
You get real when you get real.
Final Thoughts on PUA & The Future of Dating
PUA is not all bad. I truly believe that Hollywood’s brainwashing empire does far more harm to men than the PUA industry.
There are certain things that mainstream society fails to teach men.
– getting emotionally invested too fast
– getting friend-zoned
– white knighting
– being a giant pussy who never makes a move (being the nice guy)
These are pitfalls that many men fall in to due to societal brainwashing.
Dipping your foot into the PUA world is a good way to at least start the de-programming process.
As for the future of PUA content…
As the testosterone collapse and cultural brainwashing intensify, you will continue to see a rise in androgynous figures giving dating advice.
These are soft, weak, emotionally unstable beta males. I won’t be anywhere near this.
So how do you win?
You fight back. Don’t accept the culture.
This culture is a dying culture and those who accept it are dying a slow, painful death.
Hollywood’s ultimate goal is a smaller, androgynous population.
However, masculinity has always reigned supreme and this will never change.
Strength and masculinity will always be the universal ideals for men.
Never stop building. Your body, your mind, your bank account… build it all. Most importantly, build your spirit.
Be both kind and strong. Have good intentions. Women will respond accordingly. And the “gems” will come in to your life.