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How I Quit Porn in One Shot

Porn is a bad habit. Like any habit it can be eliminated.

To be fair, I didn’t have an upbringing like most guys in this generation.

My household was always lagging from a technology standpoint. I rarely played video games.

I didn’t even get a cell phone until freshman year of high school. I relied on natural instinct.

So I didn’t start watching Internet porn when I was 11 and then lose my v-card 6-7 years later.

I had sex for the first time at age 12 (day before my 13th birthday) and then watched porn for the first time at age 16.

Porn was never a problem for me. From ages 16 to 22, I would watch it occasionally.

It never got out of hand where I watched it for hours upon hours in the darkness of my house.

I was always out of the house (or dorm room) interacting with real people and making real connections with women.

I quit porn in one shot… you can too.

August 2010 to November 2011 were my WILDEST DAYS.

I was reckless for my Junior year of college and my first semester of Senior year.

I had a lot of fun but it was too much. I did not care. That’s when I drank the most. That’s when I did the most drugs. That’s when I slept with the most girls.

I partied like it was the 80’s.

My consumption of Internet porn was at its highest from May 2011 (when I got a smartphone) until November 2011.

During that time period, I was watching porn probably once a day.

It didn’t affect my sexual performance in any way.

It just sapped me of my energy where I felt like a slug during the day causing me to fall asleep in class (when I went) or at work.

The drug use probably contributed to that as well.

I hit ROCK BOTTOM on Friday November 17, 2011

It was the last weekend to party before everyone went home for Thanksgiving.

Me and some buddies went to some club in the hoodrat part of North Carolina.

It was about thirty minutes from where Michael Jordan’s father was murdered.

I ended up pulling some ratchet white chick back to a ghetto ass motel/crack den. I banged her in a room and woke up the next morning just lost.

I was lying in a disgusting bed with some naked chick with forearm tats.

There were roaches all over the place. And upon closer inspection there was an obvious bed bug infestation that I was right smack in the middle of.

Eventually, I couldn’t breathe and went to the bathroom. I threw up water and felt my heart beating out of my chest.

I decided to stop using drugs right then and there… that was an easy choice.

I spent the next couple days scratching away at the bed bug bites I had gotten from that motel room. I will never forget that experience.

I do not ever want to go back to that feeling.

I came up with the idea to quit porn by accident.

I was hanging out in Starbucks with my two best friends after Thanksgiving Break.

It was December 1, 2011.

They just mentioned how they were doing a challenge to not bust a nut for 30 days.

They told me all about how bad porn was for guys and this website:

Yourbrainonporn.com

I checked it out. It had a lot of great information and I was inspired by all the success stories.

I knew porn was not an addiction for me but it was something that I wanted to try and get rid of. I knew I could do it one shot.

I went home and got one last good one in and that was it…. December 1, 2011 was the last time I watched porn cranking down.

Here’s how I did it…

1) I associated porn with the worst experience in my life. 

I linked porn to that horrible experience of waking up in that motel room.

I linked it to not being about to breathe and feeling like my heart was going to explode.

I linked it to not being in control of my life and being reckless.

Most guys watch porn because of a lack of self-control. Not me. I had self-control. I was never going back to that feeling of helplessness.

2) I told myself that watching porn is weird. Seriously.

Technically, watching porn makes you a creep.

There’s no way around it. You are touching yourself while watching another man have sex.

That’s weird. End of story.

3) I reminded myself that both of my dead grandfathers are looking down on me from Heaven… they would be ashamed of me if they saw me watching porn. I was better than that.

I’m an old-school guy and I am proud of the family I come from.

The last thing I want to do is bring shame to the generations of strong men that have made my existence possible.

Don’t get it twisted… I’m not a selfish prick. I play this game of life for the pride of my family, not just individual success.

Anytime I was tempted, I repeated affirmations to myself. I told myself: “I’m better than that.” “Don’t give in.” “Don’t cheat yourself.”

4) I got off of Facebook and eliminated all useless Internet browsing.

All that useless Facebooking and Internet browsing is not good for you.

We are a society run by social media.

All of that dopamine being released has led to the majority of people today having a click addiction without even knowing it.

You better believe this facilitates porn consumption. It’s just too convenient. Read more about it here.

5) I removed all technology from my bedroom before going to bed.

I lived in a two bedroom apartment my senior year of college.

I was most likely to watch porn right after class or before bed. I-phone in one hand. CPiece in the other hand. That’s how it went down.

I used to have to horrible habit of browsing on my smartphone before I went to bed.

Isolation and constant clicking was not a good combination… eventually, I would hit up on Porn site.

I solved that problem by having a no technology in the bedroom rule.

I left my laptop and phone on the coffee table in the living room. Simple.

6) I began reading books in my spare time again.

I used to read books all the time when I was kid.

This time they helped me get through that urge to relapse.

Anytime, I felt like I couldn’t take it… I would either text a chick to come over or bury my head in a book to take my mind off things.

It’s important for men of all ages to read.

In this case, it helped me take my mind off of my hard on.

7) I avoided my room at all cost and spent my time in the living room.

If I was in the living room, I definitely couldn’t watch porn.

My roommate could walk in at any time. I was not going to risk it out of fear of embarrassment.

I only went into my bedroom when I had to.

That was it. I have never masturbated to porn again.

First time around, I didn’t bust a nut for 15 days. I tried to go 30 days but I couldn’t help it.

I ended up meeting a chick at the library and she kept flirting with me over text so I had ended up having rough sex with her.

The only times I have watched porn since then were the few times I hooked up with some kinky chicks that wanted to watch porn during sex.

It all comes down to self-control.

Ultimately, you are the one who is going to have to be strong and overcome temptation.

You will always be tempted in some way to sneak one in and watch Internet Porn.

That’s just the age we live in thanks to the endless technology we have available on a daily basis.

My advice would be come up with a set of beliefs that make you truly believe that you are harming yourself.

Then do everything you can to avoid isolation and useless Internet browsing.

You must have faith in yourself and rely on your competitive spirit to stay disciplined.

Last but definitely not least, you must convince yourself that none of it is reality.

Reality is that by cranking down to Internet porn… you are missing out on real life (sex with a real chick) and probably making yourself a little gayer in the process.

*** Notice the recent increase in dudes with feminine voices and gay lisps in recent generations. This was pretty much non-existent 30-40 years ago.

Most importantly, it helps if you associate it with a health risk.

Porn saps you of your precious energy in the form of zinc depletion. Check out the video for more info.

For more information, check out: 10 Reasons to Stop Using Internet Porn.

This is also a great read on the broader topic of how porn prevents you from becoming a real man. Click here.

Sonny

 

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24 Comments

  1. August 21, 2014 at 4:51 pm — Reply

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    • zindane
      August 21, 2014 at 9:02 pm — Reply

      I can attest to how much porn fucked me up All through out my teens All up to the age of 21 , its big part if the reason I lost my virginty late. I used to choke the chicken 2-5 times a day every day for a 7 whole years and made me socially anxious, lazy, no energy sluggish and asexual. I literally had no drive to talk to real girls at all, or people in one for that matter.Even cute girls Could not get me hard because I was used seeing superficial porn body’s. I had my own little virtual fantasy land To come home to keeping me in isolation. It got so bad to the point Where I skipped out on social gatherings and Going out with friend’s. It tremendously Set me back socially/sexually. It wasnt till I found out about no fap/yourbrainonporn that I cut back a lot. I am not completely clean yet, I still do masturbate once every 2 weeks but my confidence has skyrocketed and my anxiety very little at this point. I actually Get boners from seeing average chicks now.I probably would not have had the motivation Or Bravery to do cold approach if I was still wackin it constantly To pixels on screen.

      • August 21, 2014 at 11:25 pm — Reply

        Yea man so your problem was not lack of game like many PUA gurus try to say… it was poor conditioning/habits that fucked you up socially.

        Good to see you’ve improved a lot.

  2. XAvi
    August 21, 2014 at 6:44 pm — Reply

    I bust a nut every once in a while when there is no pussy available. Fuck didnt know it would fuck with your voice. Im gonna stop that shit.

    • August 21, 2014 at 11:24 pm — Reply

      Yea man. Makes it higher/fainter.

      • Milun
        August 22, 2014 at 1:39 am — Reply

        What about jerking off occasionally without porn (using your imagination)? It’s obviously not as good as real sex, but would it be healthier for your brain and voice than internet pornography

        • August 24, 2014 at 2:27 am — Reply

          yes it would be much healthier than the visual stuff.

  3. Milun
    August 22, 2014 at 1:31 am — Reply

    Good shit Sonny 🙂 I never had a problem with porn… Never been ‘addicted’ to it. But what about looking at porn for a very short time (we’re talking about five minutes here) and NOT jerking off? Or at least not busting a nut? Would that still be as harmful? The reason I don’t bust is cos it makes me feel shit mentally afterwards; like I lost control over myself, and because I know it can lead to ED and PE. That’s about all I do and to not bust a nut is some serious willpower haha.

    • August 24, 2014 at 2:27 am — Reply

      Yes. Because your still triggering an unnatural dopamine rush.

  4. SLAYER
    August 22, 2014 at 2:25 am — Reply

    Cool Sonny. College is starting next week. Got my game plan and everything.

    Let’s talk about how you were getting down with “drugs”. You quit that harder-core shit, but looking back would you say you have no regrets or would you say to stay away from that shit altogether and just stick with booze and cannibus?

    • August 24, 2014 at 2:30 am — Reply

      Don’t have any regrets because it was a lot of fun at the time.

      I see myself as content with having experienced the wild shit when I didn’t have as much responsibility.

      I have no desire to do that now because I’ve been there done that.

  5. August 22, 2014 at 8:00 am — Reply

    I cannot emphasize enough how important this is. I have been through the YBOP website plenty of times now. While I never had a problem as serious as some of the guys on YBOP, nor did I ever have the kind of anxiety which some guys describe there, but I suspected something was seriously wrong when more than a few times, I was out with a couple of fairly cute girls, and I did not feel anything. Like not felt like talking to them, hitting on them. One of them wanted to fuck me, but I was like chuck it I am not interested. Another was when I couldn’t get hard when I was in my bedroom with a fairly cute girl and we started to take our clothes off.

    That was my low point. At that point, I was like man, something needs to change.

    The other things you mentioned are also very important. I have cut down my social media usage a lot (I was never into it that much to be honest though), stopped caring or trying to find out about other people’s lives, cut out other negative people from my life, and in general people who would give you a Fear of missing out syndrome.

    I am much much happier as a result these days. Highly recommend to other people.

    • August 24, 2014 at 2:31 am — Reply

      cool thanks man.

      good point on the “fear of missing out syndrome”… a lot of PUA guys suffer from that.

  6. KingLeo187
    August 24, 2014 at 12:38 am — Reply

    Great article, great site. You can really tell a difference when interacting w chicks when youre off porn and pulling the rope daily. but I find myself relapsing to feeding the geese to some porn here and there. Have you ever relapsed?

    • August 24, 2014 at 2:40 am — Reply

      No. Never relapsed to watching porn and jerking it. To be honest I have gone so far as to read erotic stories and fire off some knuckle children to that.

      I think the last time that happened was March 2012…. right before I met up with my homies to get ribs at Texas Roadhouse haha.

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  8. Theo
    August 29, 2014 at 6:15 pm — Reply

    I like the concept of this. Last year beginning in late september i went 72 days without any masturbation at all and when I finally had sex (lost my virginity) at the end of the 72 days I didn’t really notice anything..pretty big let down. Maybe it was the condom but I couldn’t cum at all.

    My question is : I go to a military college..pretty much no girls…what’s the point of doing this there? I feel like (having done it), it’s just torture..any other suggestions/insight onto it? I just feel like it’s doing a disservice to yourself given i go to a school in the middle of nowhere that’s a military school and hardly no girls/ no opportunity to meet girls.

    • August 30, 2014 at 3:47 am — Reply

      Military schools is comparable to prison in some ways… In your rare case, go nuts dude.

  9. Scott
    August 30, 2014 at 2:15 am — Reply

    Out of curiosity what drugs did you do in college? Shit like weed, molly, & coke (typical college party drugs) or harder shit? I only smoke weed and see nothing wrong with it but would be interested to get your take?

    • August 30, 2014 at 3:46 am — Reply

      Weed, Molly, coke, Special K, addy…

      Nothing wrong with smokin some weed here and there…. don’t wanna get to the point where you actually become dependent on it (doing it multiple times a day to function).

      I would stay away from shrooms, acid and shit like that.

      Also it’s better if your doing this shit with bitches around that your gonna bang.

      Some kids get too much into the stoner culture and develop all male social circles that just hang out together and get high.

  10. cam..
    September 12, 2014 at 2:05 am — Reply

    yo

    Interesting take on this..

    No fapping is easy.. but no sex is just torture.. especially if you workout a lot.

    I tried a no sex marathon last year because i wanted to see if it would help me keep my T levels at a maximum and help me make some more gains.

    It was all good for a week and a half, but after that i think my T levels became uncontrollable. I couldn’t concentrate.. had a lot of road rage, cussing out alot of “bad drivers” pretty much everyday. At times i would have thoughts of me being a gladiator and ripping apart anything in my way. I remember doing cable rows at the gym one day and one of my best friends came up to me in the middle of the set and tried to dap me up.. I slapped his hand away for disturbing my set (i never do that).

    So i’m thinking.. high Testosterone is good only if you can control that shit.

    You ever experience this lever of uncontrollable rage?

    P.s
    I grew up in a rough neighborhood where a lot of shit goes down. From what i’m seeing kids there have the highest natural T levels on the planet, but they CANT CONTROL it so they end up doing dumb shit and getting looked up. My family was pretty chill and we moved out by the time any of it could have a longterm negative effect on me and siblings..

    • September 13, 2014 at 4:40 am — Reply

      yes. Gotta learn to control it. I’ve experienced it myself and I’ve definitely cursed out some geeks at the gym because of it.

      Also it helps if you throw yourself into something whole heartedly to take your mind off the thirst… such as working on a project or starting a business.

      • Cam..
        September 14, 2014 at 2:16 am — Reply

        Cool. Thanks for the reply.

  11. September 2, 2015 at 5:52 am — Reply

    Interesting way of quitting porn. Perception is everything… If you’ve got a fucked up perception of what porn is, it definitely makes it harder to watch.

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