The Odessa Tapes: Part IV (How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love With You)
This is how you win the game of retention… for the rest of your life.
No, this is not a misleading title.
There is a way you can get a girl to fall in love with you.
There are actionable steps you can take that will enable you to solidify a relationship.
And I can teach them to you.
That’s right. I can teach you how to get a girl to fall in love with you.
You are in good hands.
My biggest strength in the dating game is my ability to get significant emotional investment from the girl (early too).
It’s not my ability to go out and bang a bunch of hot chicks.
And it’s not my ability to slang it.
It is my ability to keep a girl and have her develop strong feelings for me.
That’s one of the perks that come along with true social freedom.
If you want to know how to get a girl to fall in love with you… READ ON.
You Must Know How and When to “Play Ball”
Many anonymous internet sources give horrible advice on dating or game.
Why else do guys waste years of their lives writing on forums and thousands of dollars on pick-up products with nothing to show for it?
It’s because most sources are not credible sources.
They do not have actual experience getting women to fall in love with them.
All they know how to do is go out and trick girls into liking them… relying on things such as buying temperature and good logistics.
Eventually, the girl figures out that the dude sucks and drops him.
One of the most misunderstood topics is the concept of “the alpha male” or how to be an alpha male.
Granted there are some credible sources that give great information on the subject.
But in general, most sources get this concept completely wrong.
They believe that being an alpha male entails being dominant at all costs.
As a result, they try to be cocky/funny or just an asshole and they think this will keep the girl.
They are wrong.
Sometimes you have to play ball.
It’s good to be confident and tease a chick but you also have to be willing to go along with what she wants or do things that she wants.
That’s called playing ball and it adds up over time.
Bottom Line: You want to be running the show the majority of the time, doing what you want. But throw her a bone here and there.
Show her what you are passionate about.
When are you at your best?
You are at your best when you are happiest.
And more likely than not, you are happiest when you are doing what you love.
That’s when your light shines brightest in the Universe.
That’s when you are most attractive to people.
This is the time to have your girl with you.
Include her in your reality of peaked happiness.
This will bring her happiness too and will help solidify that bond.
Take her on vacation.
I would say that women tend to project relationships more than men, meaning that they will constantly be wondering “How far will this go?”
Although I have come in contact with a lot of guys that fall into this generally feminine behavior.
Either way, if you want to solidify a relationship or even speed up her emotional investment… then take her on vacation.
There’s something about traveling going to different places together.
It builds up the experiences and shared history that you have together.
A part of their little fantasy mindset literally sees it as you guys having been on a journey together.
Actually BE THE PRIZE.
A lot of PUA material floats some garbage about prize frame.
All you need to do is tell yourself that you are the prize or that you are enough.
Sure you might be able to lie to yourself.
You might even be able to bullshit the girl for a little bit.
But eventually they come to their senses and bounce.
My solution: Why don’t you actually become the prize?
Why don’t you just put in the work and be the best man you can be?
Instead of “faking it until you make it” why not just become the shit?
That way you don’t have to lie to yourself or lie to the girl.
The relationship will be a lot more genuine and enjoyable for everyone.
People always ask “What is the highest level of game?” or “How will I know when I get there?”
Here is the answer:
The ultimate goal (or level) is when you can get and keep women on a consistent basis with no lies, no gimmicks, no tactics. Just straight up being genuine and honest… and them becoming emotionally invested in that. If you can do that, you don’t need anybody’s help.
Grown Man Vibe
Grown man vibe ties it all together.
It is the nail in the coffin.
Women don’t fall for little boys.
They fall for grown men.
Why do a lot of hot girls date older men?
The money, the experience, the calmness… Wrap all of that up and you have grown man vibe.
Grown man vibe means that you are a grown man and it is reflected in your thoughts words and actions.
It is reflected in how you move through the Universe.
You are all alone, completely self-sufficient.
You are out of the house and completely support yourself financially.
You can make decisions.
The good. The bad. The ugly.
No matter the situation, you will deal with it consulting yourself first.
This gives you a certain magnetism that women (by nature) must go to.
With grown man vibe (in addition to actually being the prize), there is no such thing as “losing the girl.”
Click play to hear me go through the list and talk about personal examples for each of the major points in the article.
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1:03- Is it possible to get a girl to fall in love with you?
2:17- The most important time in a relationship.
2:39- Importance of setting boundaries.
3:18- What happens when boundaries are not set?
4:58- Summer 2008 Girlfriend- example of playing ball
6:38- Misunderstanding the term “alpha male”
7:28- Your reasons = When you are at your best.
8:02- My “best” relationship example.
10:17- Take her on vacation.
10:49- Women constantly project relationships.
11:35- Vacations speed up the process of emotional investment.
13:18- Actually be the prize.
14:26- Underlying belief of the community.
16:12- Don’t be a knockoff.
16:43- What is the highest level of game?
17:32- The Importance of grown man vibe.
18:30- Why women like older men.
19:14- How to get grown man vibe.