The Odessa Tapes: Part III (Speed Read Women and Increase Retention)
Women are not a mystery… they give you all the answers you need.
This post is for anyone searching for answers on how to increase retention once you have sex with a girl.
So you’ve banged the chick.
Everything is easy street from now on.
It’s all sunshine and rainbows. You can just sit back and ride into the sunset.
You got the girl.
This is not how it really plays out.
In reality, many guys are stumped because they keep “losing” the girl.
This is one of the main problems I see amongst guys who get into the whole pick-up scene.
They do their approaches. They collect phone numbers. They get a few lays. They feel good.
But they want more. They may say they want to live the “player” lifestyle but deep down they want simplicity.
They want to get one attractive, cool girlfriend.
We all want that.
However, many are lost when it comes to retention.
They either lose the girl shortly after banging them or retain them a little longer through pure luck.
They don’t know how to the play the game of retention.
Most of them don’t even know the rules.
Today, I will teach you how to speed read women and increase retention.
You must know who you are dealing with.
Remember the most important question: What is this chick’s deal?
I wrote an eight part series on how to speed read aka screen chicks.
Read those over if you have not already. Focus on Part I where I talk about the most important question in detail.
You have to constantly be paying attention to all the little pieces of information and little hints that come up.
Will she put out with minimal effort on your part?
Is she legitimately “not that kind of girl” who needs more comfort, trust, and time to get to know you first?
All these questions need to be answered. And the only way to get these answers is by using both your screening skills and general people skills to figure out the chick.
The circumstances leading up to your first time together are crucial.
You need to understand that women like storylines.
For instance, many of them truly believe that the prince charming fairy tale will come true.
They believe they can have an alpha-male boyfriend (who has his life together) with top tier looks and a cool personality.
It’s not that they can’t… But they mess up when they expect this guy to also be a typical NICE GUY and act like a little permission boy.
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice or kind person… you should be kind to women. But there’s a difference between being a kind man who also holds women to standards versus a complete pushover who lets them get away with anything.
Unfortunately, many women confuse permission boy for nice. Permission boy does not mean nice… it means pathetic.
One storyline that I want you guys to recognize the importance of is the storyline of how you two met.
Women really hold on to that.
They love having a good back story to how you guys met.
This story has an impact on the potential length of the relationship and your overall odds of retention.
The Traditional PUA “Game Plan” is very flawed.
Most guys get into the pick-up scene because they listen to their favorite gurus preach about the importance of mastering game so that they can consistently pull stunners from the clubs.
As a result, a micro-generation of man children has risen over the past few years where guys perpetually go out at night in effort to build a rotation or “harem of tens.”
However, the biggest problem that comes up is actually keeping the girl.
Getting the girls to hang out in the first place or even respond is a whole ‘notha can of worms.
The majority never get close because the odds are not in their favor in the first place.
All in all they eventually spend years going on various Internet forums asking anonymous sources on how to fix their dating life.
This is why only going out to bars and clubs trying to pick up chicks is not a smart overall game plan.
Don’t get me wrong… It’s a great game plan if you want to bang as many chicks as possible.
But in the grand scheme of things, it will not bring you happiness.
There will always be that void that needs to be filled with actual companionship.
It’s also flawed because drunk chicks pulled from the clubs and retention do not mix.
It’s not in either of your best interests to invest a lot of time and effort into a potential relationship that started from a one night stand.
Women seem to get this more than guys.
That’s why they often leave guys stumped by one day just not answering text messages or phone calls anymore.
Women realize it’s not worth it.
They don’t want to have to eventually introduce a guy to their friends and family and answer that awkward question: “How did you guys meet?”
“Oh well I was really drunk one night at the club. He pulled me back to his apartment and he hit it.”
Again, it’s all about the story lines.
It’s also not in your best interest to try and materialize a one-night stand into a meaningful relationship.
Unless, it’s her freshman year of college, it’s highly unlikely that “she’s never done this before.”
It’s also highly unlikely that it will be the last time she will ever do it.
She likes to go out, drink, and have a good time with her girlfriends having a girls’ night out once a week.
That’s great. She’s entitled to have her fun.
Just don’t become the sucker who tries to wifey up that broad.
You will never be able to fully trust her because you know (from your own experience) what is capable of happening with a little drunken flintiness.
One-night Stand Sex versus Dating Sex.
Understand, that the sex that comes with a one-night stand is supposed to be an EXPERIENCE.
This differs from sex that came from a long leading-up-to time period where you and the chick really get to know each other.
That’s more of an INTRODUCTION.
The chick already likes you on multiple levels. That’s why she hung out with you on more than one occasion.
You guys are just getting to know each other on another level.
You are getting a sense of each other’s sexual styles and preferences.
As a result, there isn’t as much emphasis on sexual performance your first time with her.
So if you mess up with a chick you have taken out on a few dates, don’t sweat it.
You’ll get another shot.
This is not the case with a one-night stand.
She doesn’t like you on multiple levels.
She has no idea who you are.
She went home with you for the experience.
Your performance absolutely matters (if you want to see her again).
No chick wants to stick around for a random dude they met out at a club who didn’t even hit it right
She has nothing to gain from that.
She wants a hot and sweaty night.
Deep down she wants to be dominated in the bedroom.
Your best bet is to give her the rough stuff.
Give this a read: How to Become More Dominant in the Bedroom
I normally don’t think it is worth it to try and keep a club chick around. But if she’s smoking hot, I’ll admit that you should definitely try to keep her.
Following those tips and giving her the rough stuff puts the odds in you favor of doing that.
In fact, you don’t even need to worry about hitting them up… they will be hitting you up.
The dating game is easy because all women come with a “game plan”.
Click play to listen to our podcast titled “All Women Come with a Game Plan”. I cover a lot of ideas in this article and answer some crucial questions. What is the information about the girl that you must find out? What should you be doing after you’re done having sex with a girl? How do you deal with certain types of girls?
I answer all these questions and a whole lot more in this podcast.
If you want to download the podcast to your device click here. To stream the podcast just click the “play” button shaped like an arrow.
1:53- You can’t treat all women the same.
2:28- All these chicks are different.
2:47- It’s your job to find the game plan.
3:12- Women show their cards.
4:22- How certain information impacts the game plan.
5:00- Why you should question her dating life and sexual history.
6:05- This is all about control.
6:40- Game Plan = Control
7:09- An important question… and what it will answer.
8:00- Game Plan Example: a 25 year old with some mileage.
9:30- Sexual boredom.
10:57- Game Plan Example: Girl with limited sexual experience.
12:00- Low Retention from night venues.
12:36- Story lines.
13:28- the most important question *** YOU MUST ANSWER THIS.
15:45- Past example.
18:38- How to adjust according to the ex-boyfriend.
19:53- What to do after you have sex.
20:01- Inexperienced girls.
23:22- Experienced girls.
23:52- Tips on Rough Sex.